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Things That Pinch (this presentation)
Things That Pinch: clips, clamps, and other pinchers is a welcoming workshop for all to discuss ways to play with some common household items for a great time of sensual torment with your loved ones. We'll touch on the how’s, where’s, and with-what’s you need to know to enjoy a good pinchy time by yourself or with a friend.
Simple erotic pleasure for yourself and/or others. Curious about additional potential reasons? Read The Good of BDSM.
A little noose-like cord that clamps around things like nipples
A “zipper” is a string of clothespins joined by running a cord -- often of leather -- through the springs’ holes, and tying knots on each side, spaced 6” or so apart. Here’s a picture. By stringing clothespins together into a zipper, this enables removing multiple clothespins suddenly. This can create a wave of pain, followed by a euphoric rush. (See also the endorphins and aftercare section.)
Similar to zippers, but done with netting to cover more area
and their handles clip at various tightnesses
I love these -- their spring-loaded clamps have just the right pressure
For when you want to pinch harder
These grab more meat than the smaller ones below
These are a bit small for my tastes: Their
smaller pinching area makes for a less pleasant hold
The larger surface (you can’t really see the
this photo) and looser spring distributes the hold well
A bit slippery for my taste
Just fun to add to a clips and clamps scene…
A castrator re-purposed to put tight rings on
Head’s up: The green bands can be challenging to get off –
pulling causes additional pain and
they’re so tight it’s nearly impossible to cut them off
Nearly everywhere, but especially where you can grab a fold of skin
Webbing between fingers
Arms / forearms
Belly button ring
Scrotum or pussy
Legs, especially inner and outer thighs
Ears / ear lobes
Perhaps tie two or more areas together, such as both nipples clamped and joined by a chain
Clamps can cause bruising
Twisting can lead to bruising
Pulling can lead to bruising
Longer duration is more likely to bruise
Opening a clamp will result in less bruising than pulling it off
Removal via a zipper or net may result in notable bruises
Aspirin beforehand can lead to easier bruising
Oral prednisone can lead to easier bruising
Other medications which thin the blood or skin can also lead to easier bruising
Clamps restrict blood circulation
Clamps can crush skin. My experience is generally they do not – skin is pretty resilient. But on nipples in particular, where perhaps play is focused a bit more, the skin can get squished. It’s a normal consequence -- and heals on me. But know that it’s a possibility. And the healing takes time. In the meantime, my nips are a bit less available for use.
Sometimes the skin-stretch of semi-permanent jewelry might make a spot impractical for the moment (think nips) – but even that can be overcome: Some clamps can grab behind the jewelry. Sometimes there’s also the possibility of taking jewelry out temporarily to get it out of the way.
Intense physical play of many sorts can create endorphins. These are naturally occurring pain-suppressing chemicals in the body. They can also lead to feelings of peacefulness, euphoria. (Runners have called it “Runners’ high” for many years.) When many endorphins are released at once, this is often referred to as an “endorphin rush.” The removal of a single clip or clamp will result in a resurgence of blood to the area and this can feel rather intense. Multiply that by removing a series of clothespins in a zipper by yanking – and that can cause a release of many endorphins at once.
There is a duty for the Top in a scene to prepare for and look after the person it is working with: People can faint. Bondage can secure a person. Quick-release clamps, if the person is in standing bondage (think tied to a cross), can help release the person for lowering. Another approach is to do zipper removal when the bottom is laying down, as then the bottom is already safely on the ground.
The duty to look after the bottom extends to after the scene, commonly called aftercare. With a clothespin zipper scene and possible endorphin rush, there are some things to consider: Thinking may be fuzzy for a while. Depth perception (think driving; even parking) may be off for a while. One way to help address these considerations is to include wind-down time in a scene. A favorite? Holding. It’s a very bonding time.
When a clamp is on for a while, its related nerve seems to stop signaling pain
When that clamp is removed, blood returns and the nerve signals pain again; sometimes intensely
I particularly love erogenous zones such as the nips and groin. However, skin under the arms and inner thighs is also often a little easier to pull/pinch than elsewhere, making it inviting for clips and clamps, even zippers and nets
The longer a clip or clamp is on, the more intense it is when it comes off
Note: If desired, at another time, one can loosen the bite a clothespin will deliver by clamping it over something that keeps its mouth wide for an extended period
Especially between nipple clamps. This is particularly handy for adding weights
Just when you or your partner thought things were all figured out, add some weight to stir things up
Red and black are some personal favorites for BDSM art
Slowly but surely increasing the number of clips and/or clamps, which will help endorphins build, can shift things to a longer, particularly satisfying scene
Rubber tips (these can also help with grip)
Predicament bondage (particularly where something is secured to something else)
Walking / crawling
Moving clamp(s) from one place to another, and sometimes back
Whipping or flogging off
Breathing – long-deep breathing can help, though sometimes it will also trigger the clamps
The Top can influence things
a. How clamps are applied (by example, Jack Rinella relays that in applying clothespins that “…if you start in less sensitive areas, such as the chest, your bottom will last longer.” Clips & Clamps, p.53)
d. Predicament bondage (by example, movement in one area creates a challenge in another area, sometimes done by tying two or more things together)
c. Removing one or more
d. Replacing one or more
e. Time to adjust, including pauses and breaks
f. Feedback, such as “Three more”
a. Opening vs. pulling
b. Tempo of removal
d. Simultaneous removal from different areas such as via zippers and nets
e. Giving a head’s up that one or more are about to be removed
There is little more distracting than being hungry. I try to keep an easy snack on hand for if the scene goes on for a while. There are 110-calorie “Carb Boom!” packs that I find a great source of fast, easy energy
Clips and Clamps [the toybag guide to] Rinella (Greenery Press, Oakland, 2004)
Electro Gator Clips
Nasty Red & Black Clamps
Clothespins (Target and 99 Only store. Daiso has plastic figure clothesclamps like kitties.). (Home Depot had them, but with a too-small center hole in their springs for lacing to go through. Walmart, Big Lots did not have clothespins when we checked.)
ð Leather cording to make clothespin zippers is available at Michaels
Tongs, sometimes with rubber or silicone ends and sometimes with a locking mechanism
Weights, such as those found at Bass Pro Shops
Here's an example:
Sir/ma’am: You having a fun, hot experience is very important. There is one issue I need to communicate so that you can make informed decisions. I take aspirin for my heart health and as a result I tend to bruise easily. If you could work in a way that might minimize bruising I’d really appreciate it. Thank you, Sir/ma’am!
The leather tribe works with
Many folks do it well and with style.
The tribe does have a history, however, of friendly fire -- eating our own.
My observation is that we can each help contain these fires with these actions:
· When disagreements happen, and they will, be respectful
· Discreet, constructive input is helpful
· Avoid gossip
Dan Kalin was my leather mentor. He was the first person who came up to me at a leather bar, circa 1988, and said "I want to tie you up." My response was along the lines of "That's nice. Perhaps some other time." Dan seemed to intuitively know that I was afraid. He stayed and we talked. I started asking questions such as "Would you stop if I asked?" (His answer was the intriguing: "Yes, but I won't start again.") "Could there be a time limit?" (He said it depended. I inquired why. He explained that it took a while to tie someone up, and if the time were too short that would mean that untying would come shortly after, and that wouldn’t be worth his time.) When I became better versed in the leather community I realized that what we had done was negotiate a scene. I made the leap of faith and went with him to the Brotherhood of Pain dungeon. It was deliciously sinister. Ah, the first time at anything: Those were some of the hottest four hours of my life.
· Officer Wes and slave jay receive an excellence in presentation award May 6, 2006, from the Pain Guild for the Things That Pinch presentation the previous summer
· Things That Pinch presentation for the Pain Guild, served by slave jay, July 6, 2005
· Mentor in SAADE (School for Advanced American Dominant Education)'s Austin Mentors' second group October - December 2002. (The group continued into 2003. I asked to be rolled out of the rotation after December because Tom and I were moving to San Diego in January.) For this second group my mental topic was BDSM & spirituality and the physical skill was "Clamps, Clips & Things that Pinch in the Night / Processing Pain." For more information see the writeup of the inaugural group, below
· Mentor in SAADE (School for Advanced American Dominant Education)'s Mentors’ program. This is a very cool communal program to give a new generation of Dominants a broad-based Mentor/apprentice experience. Each of the apprentices gets matched with each of the mentors for one month -- and each of the mentors has something unique s/he brings to the program. The mentors work to convey one mental and one physical skill each month. For the inaugural November 2001- July 2002 group my mental topic was leather relationships and the physical skill was electrical play
· Presented on clothespin zippers for The Austin Gay Leather Social July 10, 2002. Here I am with the very brave and sexy Kevin the Manpup just as the zippers are about to be removed in one fell swoop. We had a great time!
Officer Wes has been presenting on a variety of fun kink topics for over twenty years. Officer Wes has an open leather family built around shared values of respect, honor, trust, and love. He has a slave and dogslave and is himself in service to a Daddy. Resources and information at www.officerwes.com
The long version…
Officer Wes entered his first leather bar in 1980. He has examined and shared on issues of sexual expression and other areas of the human experience for much of his life. His experiences and viewpoints have appeared in many publications including USA Today and The Advocate. He judges regional and international contests and presents programs and workshops on Master/slave and Daddy/boy relationships, spirituality and leather, great sex, pain and pleasure, uniforms, fetish, shit, interrogation, electricity, things that pinch, and other aspects of the BDSM arts at clubs and events across the country. He is credited as an influence in the books Protocol Handbook for the Leather Slave and Master/slave Relations. His Web sites on sexuality, health and kink stand as a resource for others seeking to live in integrity with their authentic selves and have been visited by over a quarter of a million people.
Officer Wes was an inaugural mentor for SAADE, the School for Advanced American Dominant Education, a formal mentoring program for new dominants that instructs its apprentices not only in physical SM practices but on the mental, emotional and spiritual dynamics of BDSM as well. He served on the host committee for Living in Leather VIII, was an inaugural core member of San Diego's private men's BDSM group SuperPigs, and is an Associate Member of the Chicago Hellfire Club.
Officer Wes has an open leather family built around shared values of respect, honor, trust, and love. He has a slave, a dogslave and is himself in service to a Daddy. More information about Officer Wes and family can be found at www.officerwes.com.
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